Baby Blues

Day three postpartum and boom. The baby blues have arrived. 

Forgot how much I hate this part. I had them with Evie and didn’t realise they would pass. I didn’t really know what the baby blues were then. I remember feeling tearful and anxious and did not like it one bit! 
Thankfully I can reassure you they do pass and knowing this second time around has helped me cope.

The NHS says ” baby blues are probably due to sudden hormonal and chemical changes taking place within your body after childbirth. Symptoms include…Feeling emotional and irrational. Bursting into tears for no apparent reason. Feeling irritable and touchy. Feeling depressed and anxious.” 

I was actually feeling like I wouldn’t get them this time. Rosie’s Birth was different and I was still on cloud 9. That was until a community midwife visited my house to check Rosie said that she looked slightly jaundice. I burst into tears! I knew there was nothing to worry about, lots of babies get a bit of jaundice. It was just something to keep an eye on. But I suddenly felt so anxious for her health.

I had a cry about the jaundice, then calmed down as The Mr reassured me. But the waterworks kept flowing that day…

When Evie fell over

When Rosie made a cute face

The thought of nighttime and a night of little sleep

Feeling bad for making the Mr do most things as I’m too sore post csection

Feeling like I just want to be with the Mr all the time and him not to go back to work the next day (he went back to work when Rosie was four days old)

Feeling like I should constantly hold Rosie otherwise she’ll be lonely in the Moses basket where she is quite happy. 

And because I’m so sore from surgery and just want to feel normal.

What a rollercoaster. One minute I feel like I’ve got this and the next I’m breaking out in tears. 

(I wrote this when it actually happened and I remember feeling so upset and anxious about the things in the above list. I read it now and it seems strange that those things caused me so much emotion. Those hormones are strong!)

I’m on a birth board and was surprised by how many women had not heard of the baby blues and we’re worrying about the way they were feeling and thinking about it, it’s something I’ve never spoken to my ‘Mummy’ friends about.I really think it is something the midwife should warn you about. To reassure you that it’s normal. And also make you aware of the difference between baby blues and PND and who to talk to if you think you may have PND.(please see the NHS website or talk to a health professional for more help and guidance on this.)

I wish I knew when I had Evie what they were and how I would feel. For me it’s a horrible feeling of anxiety, worry and stressing over the smallest of things. 

N.B Rosie is now 4 months old and I’m happy to report that the baby blues only stuck around for about three days! 

If you are experiencing the baby blues and are feeling worried or unsure, please talk to your HV. This is just my experience, yours may be different. 

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Surviving Colic! 

Colic. Uh darn that colic. If you have experienced it, I salute you. If you escaped it, I’m jealous and if it’s something you may encounter in the future, good luck!

 

Rosie finally settling after an colicky evening

 

The NHS describes colic as “the excessive, frequent crying in a baby who appears to be otherwise healthy”
I had heard the word colic banded around, people talking of wind and a lot of crying but I didn’t really take note. It didn’t even cross my mind when pregnant with Evie that she would get it. I just thought I would have a perfect, content and cuddly little newborn like everyone else.

Evie was five days old and boom. Colic payed us a visit. One evening she was so unsettled, she couldn’t get comfortable, we tried holding her in every position, tried the bouncer, swing, play mat, Moses basket, even driving around in the car and nothing would settle her. I started to think we needed to take her to out of hours. I know babies cry but this was ridiculous. Finally at about 12am she drifted off to sleep and peace was restored.

I thought it was an off evening but then the next night came and the same happened. Endless hours of crying and fussiness. I headed to Google as you do and it seemed to be adding up that Evie had colic.

We spoke to our health visitor and she confirmed that it did sound like colic. We tried everything to ease it, Infacol, Gripe water, Colief, cooled boiled water. Nothing seemed to help. It was just a case of riding it out and surviving it the best we could.

I can honestly say the colic days have been my toughest moment in parenting so far. To see your baby so unsettled is not nice and to find no way of comforting them is frustrating. The endless crying gets you down.

It really ruined those first few early weeks for me. At a time when I should be in a blissful bubble (or so people tell you) I was stressed and anxious. I dreaded the dark night coming in as that meant it was time to endure another evening of the dreaded colic. At the time, with Evie being my first baby, I thought it would be like this forever. I honestly thought every evening for the rest of my life would be tainted with an unsettled, unhappy child.of course that’s ridiculous, I knew it was just part of the baby phase but I really could see no end.  I wanted to spend the evenings snuggling my newborn baby and cooing at her cuteness.But the evenings were a circus of activities to try and settle E.

Second time around I was prepared. Inevitably Colic found little Rose. Thankfully it wasn’t as severe and I knew that it wouldn’t last forever. I was able to get through it with a much more positive outlook.

My top tips to surviving colic…

1.Lean on support when you can get it. If your other half is with you, take it in turns to try and settle the baby. If you have someone you trust with baby that can come and sit with them for half an hour one evening while you have a bath or just chill out upstairs then I’d definitely grab it.

2.If it gets too much, place baby safely in their Moses basket and walk away to a quieter room and take some deep breaths. The endless crying can really get to you and sometimes you just need a couple of minutes to regain your sanity. As long as they are safe, crying won’t hurt them.

3.Learn baby massage, ask your HV for information or enrol in a local class. They can show you specific massage techniques to help ease the baby’s discomfort and ease colic.

4. Give baby a warm, lavender bath in the evening. Now I don’t think this got rid of the colic but it certainly help to break up the evening. Both of my babies love the bath and a nice relaxing bath helped calm them for half an hour and also set up part of their bedtime routine.

5. Remind yourself it won’t last forever. Get through each evening one at a time and remember you are getting closer to that light at the end of the tunnel!

The worst of Es colic lasted about 3 weeks. I would say she was generally colicky and fussy until she was weaned at 6 months but the first three weeks were really intense. Rosies lasted about two weeks and thankfully now that has passed and her reflux is under control, she is a happy content little squidgy.

For more information and advice on colic, check out the NHS website and talk to your health visitor.
Amy xx

Siblings Project #1 January 2017

This year I have decided to join in with the siblings Project. I think it will be great to have a monthly round up of the girls and so lovely to look back on.

Evie has been a big sister for a whole 4 months!  She has taken to it really well. To be honest, she wasn’t all that interested in Rosie when she first came along. Evie doesn’t show an interest in playing dolly’s or that bothered about friends babies so I thought this might be the case. But as Rosie is growing, becoming more alert and starting to do more things, Evie is a lot more interested.

Evie loves it when Rosie sits in her Mama and Papas Snug chair. She brings Rosie little toys and shows them to her. Rosie has just started to grab things and Evie gets so excited when Rosie takes it from her.

Rosie is usually up before Evie in the morning so when I get Evie, Rosie is on her play mat. Evie is always so happy to see Rosie and runs over to give her a kiss or a pat.

Rosie is constantly watching Evie as she plays and runs around. Rosie loves to sit in her bouncer and follow Evie around with her eyes, hopefully only picking up the good behaviour eh!

I can see a friendship begining to form. A lot of people say having two girls close together, there will be rows and cattiness. I’m sure I will have to break up the odd squabble but at the moment they are very relaxed with each other.

Child’s Farm baby range review! 

We are big fans of the Child’s Farm toiletries range so I was super excited that they launched a baby product range when I was pregnant with Rosie.

I remember Evie being a few months old and found that another popular brand would dry her skin out. I did a bit of research and discovered Child’s Farm. If you’re not familiar with Child’s Farm, they are a small UK business that makes toiletry products aimed at children. They are paediatrician approved and can be used on sensitive and eczema prone skin.

I have been using the baby range on Rosie since she was born and I thought I would share some  of our favourite products with you.

We are big fans of the  baby bedtime bubbles. Rosie has this in her evening bath, it’s smells amazing and leaves her smelling like a little tangerine! Her skin is left smooth with no dry skin after.

Another product we love from this range is the baby oil. Rosie has had terrible cradle cap. I find a few sprays of the baby oil left to soak in really helps. I sometimes use a soft bristle brush once the oil is on to get rid of some of the cradle cap.

Finally, we have been using the nappy cream  with Rosie since she was a couple of weeks old. It works as a barrier cream. It’s really gentle and we have had no issues with her bottom being sore yet!

Child’s Farm also do a baby moisturiser as part of their baby range. I don’t really use moisturiser on the children but I have used it on myself and it left me feeling really smooth. I like that it didn’t have a strong scent either. Definitely worth a try if you do use moisturiser on your children.

Thank you for reading!

Rosie’s 16 Week Update…

Feeding
Rosie has Nutramigen formula (prescription for cows milk protein allergy) she has about 5-6oz every three hours. She has infant Gaviscon added to every feed due to reflux.  I was advised that because she has reflux she could start weaning at 17 weeks but I don’t feel she’s ready yet. I would prefer to wait until I feel she is ready as the infant Gaviscon seems to be helping (touch wood!)

Sleeping

Rosie goes to bed at 7pm and self settles (she has naturally fallen into this, no sleep training) she usually wakes around 5am for a feed and then back to sleep until between 7-8am. She has gone through 7-7 twice without a feed at all so we’re making progress!

We’ve just hit the dreaded 4 month sleep regression, she’s stirring a lot during the night and after her 5am bottle is deciding it’s time to get up! I pop her back in her cot and eventually she does nod off.

Naps are a bit all over the place at the moment. We’re out and about alot so she tends to grab naps in the car or pram. If we’re home I make a little bed up for on the sofa and she naps there but not for much longer than 20 mins at a time.

Likes

Walks in the pram

Her big sister

Bath time

Laying on her play mat and gym

Grabbing toys and chewing on them

Chewing on her fists

The song zoom zoom and the Mr Tumble theme tune (argh!)
Dislikes

Me leaving the room!
Rosie you are turning into such a happy, smiley baby!

Rosie’s 8 week update

Feeding
At 7 weeks old, Rosie was finally diagnosed with milk protein allergy. She is having Nutramigen formula. She feeds every 3-4 hours and has 4oz. She weighs 11lbs! 

Sleeping

Rosie has become a lot more alert during the day. If we’re out and about she will usually nod off in the car seat or pram. She finds it more difficult to nap at home. She likes her bouncy chair when we’re at home. 

During the nightime, Rosie still sleeps in her Moses basket next to me. She has a bath at 8.30 then bottle and put down at 9pm. Her sleep is a bit hit and miss. Sometimes she only has 1 feed, other times it’s 2 feeds. The best she has slept is 9pm-3am then 3.30am-7am. 

Likes

Rosie like walks in the pram, being in her car seat, bath time, watching her big sister. 

Dislikes

Being held too much and blankets!

Even now moving onto Nutramigen, Rosie seems unsettled. We have to give the milk two weeks and if no improvement then we’ll be off to the Drs again. 

Hello 2017!

Happy 2017 from me and my family!

The Mr will go nuts when he finds out his mug is on here mwahaha!

I feel quite sad that another year has passed and on the other hand, excited for the new year ahead. 

2016 on the whole was good to us. We had our beautiful baby Rose, enjoyed a family holiday and had good times with friends. I got to watch Miss Evie grow and develop and become such a character. We have made lots of new friends at toddler groups and reconnected with The Misters son. We have enjoyed so many little adventures along the year. 

I don’t believe in ‘New Years Resolutions’, everyday is a new day and you have the power to make changes everyday. However I have promised myself that I will get back to giving blood regularly. Once Rosie is 6 months old I can give again. It’s something I used to do before I had Evie and I’ve got out of the habit. But I think it’s so important to give blood if you can so I’m gonna practice what I preach!

I’m looking forward to all the adventures 2017 has to offer and pray there is more good than bad in our lives and in the world.

New Year Bucket List

1.Family break to Center Parcs

2.Celebrate me turning 30

3.Celebrate Rosie’s first birthday

4.Enjoy a me and the Mr trip to London to watch a Westend show.

5.Evie to start Pre-School

6.Get lots of use out of our Longleat Passes

7.Trip to Peppa Pig world with Zoe.

8.Keep up with Slimming World and work towards my target.

9.Give blood

10.Enjoy every moment with my babies and if we’re having an off day, remember, it’s a bad day not a bad life.

Whatever the new year has in store, I hope it’s a good one for you and enjoy the crazy ride that is life! 
Happy 2017 

Amy xox 

My toddler can’t talk

So my wonderful Miss Evie is 23 months old and is yet to say any real words. We had duck for a while but I haven’t heard that in a long time and Dada but it’s not always directed at Daddy.

She’s developed well in all other areas.Always met other milestones early or on time. She can recognise numbers 1-5, basic shapes, colours. She knows people’s names, she can follow two part instructions but she just can’t verbalise any of it. 

When she was a year old I noticed that she didn’t babble like the milestone book said she should be doing. All she babbled was baba. The HV wasn’t worried. Said she’s inquisitive, confident, met all other milestones. Come back at 18 months. 

Her babbling did develop and I hoped some words might come spouting out but at 18 months, not a sausage. Again I was told not to worry. She has good understanding and non verbal communication. The HV would check in with us when she’s 21 months. 

21 months came and still no words. Again the HV said she wasn’t worried. They can’t refer her for speech and language support as she doesn’t meet the criteria due to her meeting all other milestones, good non verbal communication and understanding! 

It does worry me, I feel like she is never going to talk. In a way I’m so used to communicating with her without speech, when she does talk it’s going to be strange. 

I’m always told to make sure I share books with her, sing songs, talk to her, ask her questions. I find it a bit insulting as I’ve been doing everything like this since she was a baby. I started sharing books with her at two weeks old, always singing and chatting away to her. We go to the library, baby/toddler groups, socialise with friends. 

It is becoming increasingly frustrating for all of us.

 90% of the time I know what Evie is telling me via pointing etc but that small percent of the time, when I have no clue what she wants to tell me, is so frustrating and heartbreaking.

She may lack in the speech department but my little sausage is a bright, happy, loving squidgy that certainly doesn’t let a little thing like speech delay stand in her way!

Does your child have a speech delay? How do you feel? How do you encourage their speech? I’d love any hints or tips! 

Life with a two under two so far…

 When we are met by new faces at toddlers or out and about, one of the first things people ask when they see I have two young children is”what is the age gap” usually followed by “gosh how are you coping!”. I smile and reply with “I just get on with it”. 

Which is a true  and a great quick reply but two under two, how am I coping? How am I finding it?
In all honesty you do just get on with it. Life is definitely more hectic. Trying to get out of the house is a military operation and my day is ran by a good routine.

We manage to get out the house everyday. There have been a couple of fails in the early days but now we’re in a routine we make it. 

I like routine and organisation anyway but life definitely has to have more of that at the moment. I get the girls clothes ready the night before and lay them out with nappies ready for the next day. I check my changing bag in the evening and ensure everything I need for a trip out is sorted. I set up an invitation to play for Evie every night so that she has something to do first thing which means I can feed Rosie in peace and wash up bottles, make breakfast etc. I plan Evie’s meals so I know what I’m doing come 5pm and don’t have to worry that I haven’t got anything. Of course this level of organisation isn’t for everyone but it works for me! 

There are days , especially in the first few weeks when I’ve cried. Rosie, at 7 weeks was diagnosed with CMPA ( cows milk protein allergy) and she had been very unsettled and poorly in those first few weeks. I didn’t necessarily find having two hard but felt like I was failing Rosie as she always seemed so unhappy. I didn’t know at the time that there was a medical reason. 

I definitely have twice the Mum guilt! Making sure I have spent enough with each child and making sure both have been sufficiently stimulated. The laundry pile never seems to go down and life is a bit of a cycle of nappy changes and feeding at the moment! 
It feels like Rosie has always been here and I can’t imagine life without both of my munchkins. I definitely do not regret having two children close together. Yes there are bad days when things seem too much. Rosie decided to fight her naps and Evie is having tantrum after tantrum. But on the whole the good days far outweigh the bad!

As the saying goes…’ my hands are full but my heart is even fuller’

What age gap do you have between your children? How do you find it?

Amy xx

Halloween Basket 2016

Oh I do love a themed basket full of activities and treats and Halloween is a great excuse to put one together, right? I love putting seasonal baskets together and it’s great to see Evie enjoy all the goodies. All the items are reasonably priced, I haven’t spent a fortune and come mainly from supermarkets and Amazon. So here is what’s in our Halloween basket…

For me, no seasonal basket is complete without books! Spooky spells and Peppa are actually books I bought last year. I’m taking advantage of the fact that E won’t remember them from last year so they will still seems new to her! I’m really looking forward to sharing ‘ten little monster’s with her. 

We don’t go trick or treating and E doesn’t get chocolate/sweets unless it’s a special occasion so I’m sure she will enjoy these couple of Choccy treats! The Mr picked up the Peppa DVD in Sainsburys . Will be a great way to spend a chilled hour over the weekend. 

I got this cupcake making set from Asda. Evie loves to help with baking so I’m sure we will have fun making some spooky treats! The cup was also from Asda. I will be making Evie a Halloween themed breakfast so this will go well with it. 

Of course, as Rosie is only 6 weeks old I didn’t get her much but didn’t want her to go without anything. She has this cute baby vest and Halloween bib, both from Tesco. 

So that’s our basket! Have you made a Halloween basket? What did you put in there?  

Amy xx